I've been reading Playing Big by Tara Mohr this week and one of the many things that grabbed me was this idea that there are two kinds of fear (which show up in the Hebrew Bible). She goes into it more deeply in her book, but here they are in a nutshell:

Pachad — "...is the over-reactive, irrational fear that stems from worries about what could happen, about the worst-case scenarios we imagine."

Yirah — "...is the feeling that overcomes us when we inhabit a larger space than we are used to," and "the feeling we experience when we suddenly come into possession of considerably more energy that we had before."

Mohr talks about a woman in her book who describes the distinction between the two types of fear like this: "Yirah is the fear of dissolving a boundary, while pachad is the fear I feel within that boundary."

Dissolve some boundaries, people!
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Let's be more like apricot kid!

“Today’s his tenth birthday. He’s a very emotional young man. He likes to solve other people’s problems. One time...
Posted by Humans of New York on Thursday, September 3, 2015

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And while we're dissolving boundaries and being more like apricot kid, let's also be wrong and make mistakes, because according to this TED talk by Kathryn Schulz, being wrong is where the wonder of the world lies.
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This GQ interview with Stephen Colbert is great for its delving into how trauma has shaped Colbert's life, and also how he has embraced failing, so much so that he loves it. What might be possible if we loved the fail instead of feared it?
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Some tips from the Omega Institute on how to make self-care a habit — create a habit loop with a cue, a response, and a reward and voilá, a habit is formed. MIT neuroscientists say so.
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We've all got difficult people in our lives. Here are eight ways to deal with them. I often practice number four, but number five is new to me. I shall be adding that to my repertoire. And no, punching them is face or slashing their tires is not on the list.
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Do you use anger as a cover-up for other feelings? Probably, since anger is rarely the primary emotion, according to this Psychology Today article. Good food for thought.
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"Sex will probably always be a subject that affects us deeply. It is too tied up with the way most people connect with and find intimacy with others (not to mention the drive for sexual release, and the reproductive consequences of heterosexual intercourse). But it doesn’t have to be as fraught with emotion — and symbolism — as it is. We shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed of our desire for sex, but we also shouldn’t be shamed for failing to perform it." — from the NY Times article, When Your Sex Life Doesn't Follow the Script

Friday Finds: Fear, Anger, Stephen Colbert, And The Power of Apricots